What To Do When Your Ex Blocks You Online
So getting blocked by an ex isn’t usually a good sign. So if you had an ex block you recently it can cause you to be even more anxious and worried that you won’t ever get them back
It probably is triggering separation anxiety and making you obsess about them even more.
You may be feeling powerless and hopeless. It’s difficult because you may be shocked that it happened, you’re unprepared, and there’s nothing you can do to prevent it from happening.
I have an email here from Buck who just found out that his ex blocked him from everything. Hello Craig, I just want to say love the channel and the videos. Your website looks great too. I’m a big fan of your work and information. I wish I was writing to you about a success story but I think it may be too late for me to get my ex back.
I just found out that my ex blocked me on everything. I messed up pretty bad recently and I’m not sure I can recover. She broke up with me a few months ago. I had initially tried begging her and talking to her about working things out. She said she needed time and space. I tried to give it to her for a few weeks. After I didn’t hear from her I tried sending her a card and 2 dozen roses to her house. She didn’t reply or send anything.
Her mother is kind of controlling so I started to think about it more and more and I convinced myself that her mother didn’t tell her about the flowers. So I decided to try again. This time I showed up at her work with two dozen roses.
I tried giving her the flowers and she refused. She said I didn’t contact you after the first ones you sent to my house why would I want more. Her boss came over and threw me out. That night after she got off of work she blocked me from everything. Is it hopeless?
Buck I would say that at this point in time it’s pretty hopeless. Yes she is angry at you. Yes she may calm down. But I would absolutely not pursue her at this point.
She has made it clear she is not interested. For whatever reason. If you continue to pursue someone after she has repeatedly made it clear she is uninterested, she will get a restraining order on you.
Think about this: Lets say she does change her mind in a few weeks and contacts you. Lets go as far as to say she says she wants to work it out. Would you really want to give someone, who completely blocked you out of their life, another chance?
Now, I don’t know what lead up to the break up. If you did something really messed up. At this point all you can do is move on.
I would recommend that you do not contact her for any reason. Let her contact you. If and when she does be friendly. Not over excited. Simply see if she would like to get together.
You can’t force people to want to stay in your life.
The hard part, the painful part of situations like this is letting go of attachments. Which is incredibly difficult because we are wired to attach to others. It’s how we feel safe.
When that relationship is ruptured or ended it is incredibly painful. It feels like death. And we instinctively want to do anything and everything in our nature to reconnect with that person.
Unfortunately, the grand gesture, begging, pleading, trying to talk about those things with a woman rationally do not cause attraction. Women want a secure base. Being the mountain. You want to make them feel safe.
Think about a time where you saw someone begging. It makes them feel like they are in complete control. You are not equals. You are essentially saying: You are more valuable than I am.
There is nothing attractive about that. People want what they consider to be valuable. Watch my video We Create Our Own Value.
So if someone blocks you. You want to respect that. Respect the boundary they are setting with you.
Have no expectation that they will change their mind. They might. They may just be angry at you right now.
You have to give them time and space. If they are angry, they will calm down. Wait until they contact you. I wouldn’t wait too long. You want to move on with your life and learn from your mistakes.
It has to be their idea to contact you again. Don’t keep trying to force yourself into someones life that doesn’t want you.
You want people to value you too.
If you want additional help with your breakup check out my workbook series The Knowledge!