Online Dating Etiquette

Online Dating Etiquette

Today’s video is about some etiquette you should have when messaging a woman for dating apps or websites.

I’ve had several women ask me to do this for you guys as they are getting tired of how guys talk with them.

What you have to understand is that online dating is very different for women.

It is very overwhelming for them. They are bombarded with emails and messages.

Some dating apps like Tinder or Bumble are more manageable because they have to choose you to be a mutual match.

But on something where a guy can send a message without being a match… A pretty girl will get like 30-50 messages a day.

I remember years ago my Step Sister set up a Plenty of Fish account at like Midnight. By the morning she had like 30 something messages.

I could be on there for a year and not get that many messages.

So, understand she is already overwhelmed. You have to be patient.

Can I tell you, women will sign on, look at all the messages, get overwhelmed and be like I’ll come back later.

Then a guy who messaged her sees she is online, and get angry because she hasn’t responded yet.

If you do that, you deserve to be alone. Are you that weak, that you can’t be patient enough to wait for a reply? If you are that insecure out the gate, how the hell are you going to act in a relationship? Like a weak bitch.

If you get angry and insult women when they reject you, you’re weak and you deserved to be rejected.

You have just proven to her that rejecting you was the right thing to do because you have no emotional self control.

Nobody likes to be rejected, it hurts. It hurts and it sucks.

Beautiful women have a ton of options and it won’t take her long to find a man who is emotionally more stable than you.

Be the mountain. Your opinion of yourself should be the only one that matters, when you have that attitude, it doesn’t matter if someone doesn’t like you. Because you know you’re great.

If you send her a message and she’s interested, she will write you back. You be a man and exhibit emotional self control. Go on with your life and she will message you when she’s ready.


Do not message her twice in a row. If she is interested, she will message you. Let’s say you message each other 3 or 4 times and then she doesn’t get back to you. Wait a minimum of a week. Even a week and a half. Send 1 follow up message. If she doesn’t reply, assume she isn’t interested and move on.

Now, a lot of girls complain about what guys say. I can tell you, the messages are bad. Like 75 percent are awful.


So what kind of message do you want to send. Read her profile, what does she seem passionate about or interested in. If she talks about something in more detail, it’s probably something that is important to her and would be excited to talk about.

You want to be friendly, casual, interesting and inviting. Maybe 2-3 sentences long.

Maybe end the email with a corny joke. But don’t give the answer. Wait for her to reply and answer the joke in the reply email.

Online dating is creepy, scary and overwhelming for women. Be understanding of that and relax. If you come on too strong you’re going to freak her out.