Be Her Best Option
Today I’m going to be talking about the importance of being a woman’s best option and some different ways you can do that.
I got an email today from Ron who opens up about his reoccurring and persistent fears about his girlfriend leaving him.
Ron said, Hey Craig, so this email is difficult for me to write. I haven’t opened up to anyone about this, but it’s something that bothers me. Honestly, I don’t even like to talk about it as it makes it feel more real and I get scared that it will make it happen.
Ron that is a natural fear. That when we talk about it we give it some power. Actually talking about it makes it less likely to happen. Because we become conscious of it, we deal with it and then don’t unconsciously push for it.
Ron said: I constantly don’t think I’m good enough for my girlfriend. I don’t have a good job or career and she makes a lot more money than me. My girl gets hit on by a lot of guys and I’m constantly afraid that she is going to leave me for them.
Okay, so you’re feeling insecure and have anxiety. Now I would suggest that you look at your relationship with your parents. It seems like you have some abandonment issues going on. Did your parents get a divorce or one of your parents leave? These early wounds affect us as adults.
Understand that the reason passion fades from relationships is anxiety. When we become anxious we do things like withdraw or become aggressive. So you’re going to have to soothe yourself.
Ron says at times I feel so close to exploding and just losing it. I don’t want to ruin things but I know I’m getting close to saying or doing things that I’m going to regret. Do you think she will leave me for a guy with money?
Ron get a hold of your emotions. You have to be able to calm down.
Let me reassure you that most women that have a healthy attachment style will not leave love for money.
You cannot control if someone leaves you. You have to be in a place where if someone doesn’t want to be with you, you have to be okay with it. You don’t have to like it. Just be okay with it.
Be okay with wherever you are in the present moment. Everything happens for a reason. The more you can be fine with whatever happens and comes your way the happier and at peace you will be.
What can I do to stop worrying about everyone else?
Focusing on what you can control will help you be confident. Your mindset should simply be to be her best option.
Here are some ways to do that: Always be curious about what is going on with her. Talk to her about her dreams.
Be there for her, be emotionally responsive, make her feel special, listen to her, communicate with her, respect her, and make her feel connected to you, reassure her when she is anxious, she will stay faithful and loyal. Grow together.
Remember women are attracted to behavior.
There is only one you. We are all special and unique. You have to focus on what you want to happen. You want to focus on creating a great relationship and that is exactly what you will create.