Does My Ex Miss Me?

Does My Ex Miss Me?

Do you wonder if your ex ever thinks about you?

It’s probably one of the things that scares you the most going through a break up. Do they miss me? Do they think about getting back together.

 At times we look at their behavior and think: there’s no way they’re thinking about me.

Sometimes it’s true. Sometimes they aren’t thinking about you.. Or thinking about you that much.

One of the things that you have to understand is that feelings change.

 I see how many of you guys get. You work on yourself when you are really anxious but you think you have shot. But once you think they aren’t coming back, you fall back into your old patterns.

When it comes to being their best option, you have to be in it for the long haul. I try to warn you guys all the time, but you don’t see things play out like I do.

I have 2 good emails today.

I got an email from a 28 year old guy.

Hi Craig,

I am embarrassed to say that I am not one of your success stories. I screwed up badly.

I found your channel last fall after a break up with my girlfriend Jenna. I watched your videos every day for about 4 months. Around January I saw she started dating another guy and I gave up on my ex ever coming back. I gave up on myself too.

I stopped watching your videos little by little. I’m embarrassed to say I even unsubscribed to your channel.

 I bumped into her at a bar I frequent with friends. When I saw her I was thinking what is she doing here?

She gave me the biggest smile and looked so excited to see me.

She told me she missed me. My heart was pounding. I felt like a kid on Christmas morning.

She admitted that she had started thinking about me a lot. After we had a few drinks she said that she was hoping she bumped into me at the bar.

She even admitted she would check my social media. That she wondered if we would ever have another chance.

This was a girl that wouldn’t even return a text message to me last time I texted her. 

 She asked me about how I was. My career had gone nowhere, I was still living in the same small place that I vowed I would get out of, I had put on a ton of weight, I hadn’t pursued my career at all.

Man Craig, I have never been so disappointed in myself. As I started answering her questions she looked more and more turned off. She had gone from missing me to looking for an excuse to leave.

I went home and tt brought up all my past feelings of anxiety and missing her. I had no idea that she could ever think about me so long after a break up.

A second email here from Debbie.

Hello coach Craig. Thank you for your amazing videos. I am a huge fan.

I am 28 year old woman who dated a 33 year old guy for 3 years.

We broke up about 3 months ago due to constant fighting. We lived together and often talked about getting married in the future.

 The problem for me was that he worked a lot of evenings. On his nights off he would often go out with friends. So I would only get to spend 2 nights with him and a decent amount of time together on the weekends.

I would get upset at him when he left me alone a lot. He wanted to do things with his buddies like fishing and hunting. Which I’m not into. I don’t care if he does, but I want to be a priority and not an option.

I made the mistake of giving him an ultimatum about not going on a weekend trip he had planned. I know I shouldn’t have done it, but I was tired of feeling like back up plans.

 He told his friend that he misses me but is tired and doesn’t know if he can do it anymore. He says he loves me, but doesn’t know if he’s in love with me or can handle a future of fighting and me constantly being disappointed with him. He just seemed put off by everything.

 I really want to talk with you and am going to sign up for a Skype soon because I can see how much insight you would provide.

Right now I just really need to know, do you think he misses me?